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- surrender

- what we can learn from the obamas

- will healthy marriage trickle down?

- dual career, two kids, many campaigns - it's real

- marriage moments 

- an argument a day keeps the divorce lawyers away.....





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- surrender



diane, 

you may as well surrender.  we may have had presidents with great marriages

but we've never had a presidential marriage that created such a commotion

with so many journalists commenting about their incredibly romantic

with so many journalists commenting about their incredibly romantic


commitment and pdas. you seem to be concerned about celebrating this, like


you'll offend the republicans.  don't worry, go ahead and play it for all


it's worth. an opportunity like this is made to order for our marriage


education ministry. - bill in austin








i agree, it's creating an unbelievable marriage mania.  i'm pleased that so


many of you have written on your own blogs and newslists and that you are


all sending me great articles and comments.   someone wrote me last night to


point out that the obamas not only danced to at last *the wedding song* but


also dressed the part with the first lady in a white €wedding-like* gown ?

that they looked like a bride and groom on top of the wedding cake and


predicted a huge increase in weddings in the coming year.  if this happens


it's our job to be sure these couples are prepared for marriage, not just


weddings!  someone else just sent me this first article with the comment


about how wise the president is on advice for husbands - said maybe we could


get him/them to write a marriage book.  i'll share a few more articles.... i


guess bill in austin is right - we should ride this one as long as it lasts.


if you figure ways to use the presidential marriage in your community for


marriage week celebrations, share your ideas with the list! i can imagine



marriage week celebrations, share your ideas with the list! i can imagine

some incredible posters!  and, if you can spare the time, please add your

comments to any of the articles web pages.  some of the comment sections are

pretty marriage-cynical. - diane



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- what we can learn from the obamas

strong marriage strong family series: what we can learn from the obamas

january 20

by angela atkinson, st. louis family & parenting examiner



> "what i realize as i get older is that michelle is less concerned about me

> giving her flowers than she is that i'm doing things that are hard for me --

> carving out time," obama said in an ebony interview, "that to her is proof,

> evidence that i'm thinking about her. she appreciates the flowers, but to her

> romance is that i'm actually paying attention to things that she cares about,

> and time is always an important factor."

> 



as i watched the inauguration of president barack obama today with tears in

my eyes and a baby on my hip, i noticed how his beautiful wife stood next to

him, her eyes never leaving his face.



it would seem that the obamas have figured out this whole strong marriage

thing. as such, and in honor of president obama's inauguration today, the

strong marriage, strong family series will take its cue from barack and

michelle's soon to be legendary relationship.



1. love and respect one another. according to author and relationship expert

kathlyn hendricks, ?ot only does [barack obama] love his wife, he respects

her. the model of harmony, shared humor and easy communication that the

obamas reveal really is a new model ?if ordinary citizens practiced this

each day, our world would transform very quickly in positive directions.?


2. engage in a little pda. you don't have to make out on the street corner,

but don't be afraid to touch your partner's arm, hold hands, or even sneak a

little kiss now and then, especially in situations where its safe to do so.

barack obama is constantly telling the world that he loves his wife,

stealing kisses whenever he can and proclaiming that she is the "love of his

life."



3. make time for one another. i've said it before folks, and i'll say it

again. take time every day to be a couple. president obama says that it's

one way he shows his wife he loves her.



"what i realize as i get older is that michelle is less concerned about me

giving her flowers than she is that i'm doing things that are hard for me --

carving out time," obama said in an ebony interview, "that to her is proof,

evidence that i'm thinking about her. she appreciates the flowers, but to

her romance is that i'm actually paying attention to things that she cares

about, and time is always an important factor."



for the photo: http://tinyurl.com/6vltej



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- will healthy marriage trickle down?



the obamas: a more perfect union

san francisco chronicle/sfgate.com

the mommy files 

http://tinyurl.com/7oat5d



> the new york daily news even predicted that there would be a baby boom if

> obama won the election. and now that he has won the election, do you think his

> healthy marriage will trickle down?



did you see the way she was looking at him as he was sworn in as the 44th

president of the united states? did you see how many times throughout the

inauguration he touched her and she touched him. a reassuring pat on the

shoulder. a loving embrace. as they walked along the parade route, she

tightly squeezed his hand with a huge smile across her face. barack and

michelle obama are hot, despite being married for 16 years and having two

children. and my god, i think our new president and his wife actually have

sex. could they possibly be in love? i think so.



one of the greatest benefits of an obama presidency is so often forgotten

but it's right out there in plain sight: the healthy relationship between

michelle and barack. married couples rejoice! we finally have a positive

role model. this is refreshing after the litany of past political couples'

dysfunctional relationships. the clintons, the spitzers, and even the

kennedys, who almost never held hands or showed affection in public.



the obamas aren't afraid of pda. remember when barack won the democratic

nomination? the frisky couple were all over each other--and so were

supporters celebrating the victory. the news networks started showing

footage of couples smooching at obama parties all over the country. the new

york daily news even predicted that there would be a baby boom if obama won

the election. and now that he has won the election, do you think his healthy

marriage will trickle down? will his romantic relationship with his wife

inspire us all to start holding hands again? can our new president save our

world--and our marriages?



(and the bidens, too. as someone says in the comments section on this

piece.) 



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- dual career, two kids, many campaigns - it's real



and then there's this one from the chicago sun times that goes into their

busy schedules and marriage struggles - it's been 16 years:

http://tinyurl.com/8selcl

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and this snippet from about.com



> what you can learn from the marriage of michelle and barack obama:

> barack and michelle understand the importance of putting a priority on their

> time together. even with both of their busy schedules, barack and michelle

> make time for one another.

> 

> in an abc interview, michelle said that "barack didn't pledge riches, only a

> life that would be interesting. on that promise he's delivered." she also said

> as part of the division of labor in their house, barack did the grocery

> shopping.



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- marriage moments 



> diane, we, along with the rest of the country, have been watching the lead up

> to inauguration day and we spotted two wonderful marriage moments  today. the

> first was barack and michelle obama visiting a high school  in washington to

> have lunch with volunteers. he was called  upon to speak and he promised to

> work to get the  government moving in a responsible way and he asked his

> audience to do  their part in making the sacrifices necessary for a better

> future. as  always he was eloquent and charming, but what really impressed us

> was  that he turned to michelle and asked if she wanted to add anything. a man

> just about to take the oath of office as  president of the most powerful

> nation on earth turned to his wife to listen respectfully to her. wow!

> 

> then there was jill biden revealing on oprah that joe had been offered  the

> sec. of state job. probably not a good political move, but what we  noticed

> was what she said about why she encouraged him to take the vice-presidency.

> "if you were  secretary of state," she said, "we'd never see you, except for

> an  occasional state dinner." wow again. not what's more prestigious, or

> easier to get, or makes the most contacts, but what is best for the family,

> for the marriage.

> 

> we're all leery of a camelot moment, but for those of us looking for

> positive images for marriage, this has to be amazing

> steve and kathy beirne



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- an argument a day keeps the divorce lawyers away.....



as we've long said: it's not the disagreements, but how you handle them that

matters. and, you have to handle them, avoiding disagreements is not the

answer.  - diane 





fiona mccade: a row a day helps you work, rest and stay married

daily tiffs may be the key to a long and happy marriage

fiona mccade

the sunday times (london)

january 18, 2009 



when does arguing every day become the recipe for a happy marriage? when it

keeps a couple together for 75 years, apparently. francis and may smith,

scotland? longest-married couple, have just celebrated three-quarters of a

century of connubial bliss and they put the longevity of their relationship

down to losing their tempers with each other on a daily basis ?even arguing

more now than they did as newly-weds. but they claim this means there?

never a dull moment and i believe them. especially because britain?

longest-married couple ?still in love after nearly 81 years ?also cite

having ? small argument every day?as being integral to their success.



this seems perfectly logical to me. disagreement equals passionate

communication. it clears the air. if your beloved is still leaving wet

towels on the bathroom floor after 75 years, it? no good festering about

it. get it out in the open, then kiss and make up.



pick your fights wisely, however. just talking about the smiths caused a

completely pointless row in the mccade household. instead of agreeing with

me when i declared, ?rguing obviously helps a marriage? my husband

irritatingly replied: ?? loath to disagree with you, because you hate

being wrong.?which forced me to say:



?f course i hate it if you say i? wrong when i? right.?


he asked: ?o you hate that more than actually being wrong? which is worse,

being wrong, or being told you?e wrong when you?e right??


to which i replied: ?hut up, shut up, shut up, you obnoxious git.?


seventy-five years. how the hell have they managed it? maybe the real secret

to a good marriage is not the arguing, but the method of reconciliation. the

smiths never let the sun go down on a quarrel, but i bet mr smith has learnt

that so long as he always ends any blistering row with the words, ?ou?e

right, love, i? sorry? all will be well. husbands, take note.



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